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Are You Being Deceived in a Online Dating?
 Since the advent of the Internet, online dating seems to be
the next generation of falling in love and getting married.
With online dating, it seems that no one needs to be alone
anymore. Everybody is bound to find the right man or woman
through the help of online dating services. Best of all,
dating online provides additional services that no other
services can provide; and, because of the many interactive
features that most online dating sites give, more and more
people are being enticed to try it out.
One of the greatest advantages of online dating is that it
gives the person anonymity. Since, other people are not fully
aware of how an individual looks and what kind of person they
are dealing with; anonymity becomes a powerful tool in the
process of interaction with other people.
With anonymity, most people are able to say what they usually
cannot disclose if done personally. In addition, most people
have a lot of time analyzing their dates first before they
decide to meet them in person. In this way, they get to know
who the person is, his or her personality, or what does he or
she looks like even if it is only through pictures.
However, anonymity can also be too powerful that some people
use this as one way of gaining the other person’s attention
through deceptions and lies.
Therefore, for people who wish to know how to identify if the
other person they are dating online is not telling the truth
or is deceiving them, here are some ways to detect such
unscrupulous activity.
1. People who are into online dating should be wary of
those who exaggerate or evade things that are too obvious not
to notice.
This only means that the other person is trying to hide
something. People who do these kinds of things can be very
deceiving especially if the other person cannot easily detect
the “symptoms of lying.”
Moreover, people who usually exaggerate may suggest that he or
she is trying to cover something that is why they make an
effort to change the topic at once.
2. Inconsistency
There are instances that some people usually tell stories of
different varieties during a date online. Throughout the
course of the activity, there are those who would keep on
yakking about certain things and when they are asked to tell
the same story all over again the next time the couples meet
online, some discrepancies happen. The facts are no longer
consistent with those that were mentioned before.
Therefore, these things would only suggest that the person is,
indeed, deceiving his or her online date.
3. If the other person does not reveal too much of his
or her personal information or anything about him or her,
chances are, he or she may be deceiving their online dates.
In reality, there is no harm on not revealing anything about
certain information. In fact, it is one way of dating safely
online.
However, there are situations wherein an individual has to
know something about his or her date just to gain a little
knowledge about the other person. This usually includes basic
information like name, age, likes or dislikes, and other light
information that could give the concerned person some solid
basis of the person.
So, for people who do not reveal much about who they are, it
means that they are hiding something.
4. Intuitions
It may be too vague or too amusing to believe on intuitions.
Nevertheless, there are many cases and stories wherein people
who rely on their intuitions usually get positive results.
Intuitions are things that are known to exist without the
support of some rational basis. Hence, if a person feels that
his online date is not telling the truth, then, chances are,
the person may not be telling the truth after all.
Experts say that through intuitions, the individual’s
subconscious thought can identify inconsistencies that are not
easily noticed. This can be very helpful especially when
somebody is skilled enough to be consistent on his or her lies
for a long time.
5. It would be better for some people to ask their
online date to have a chat using a web cam. In this way, they
will both each other’s looks, personalities, and other things
that can only be verifiable through web cams.
Here, an individual can detect a person who is trying to
deceive him or her when he or she does not want to use a web
cam or if there are just too many excuses.
The bottom line is that, if the other person has nothing to
lie about, then, everything must be kept simple and
straightforward. There should be no beating around the bush
while answering some questions.
In reality, online dating that is free from any deceptions
should be simple and based on truth, no more, no less.
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