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Dating Single Men
Dating Single Men today can seem a bit complicated. Do you go
out, join online dating communities, go on singles cruises
...? And with the world wide web the choices of where to meet
people seem endless. Most women think that the question that
they should ask is where to meet a guy man? The real question
is what to do when you find one.
You can place a million personals offline and on the net but
how do you weed out the wackos and find the winners and how do
you hold on to "the one" when you find him? These are the
questions that you should be asking yourself. Finding love can
boil down to being a bit more discerning and knowing how to
value a good man when you find him.
Write down exactly what you want in a man and in a
relationship then write down the exact type of relationship
that you want. Then you will have an easier time recognizing
men that fit what you want for your future.
Next think about where this type of man would hang out. Is he
a technical genius? Then perhaps you could join a computer
club. Does he enjoy the great outdoors? Perhaps a sports club
may be your ticket to the athletic type.
Finally decide what type of relationship that you want. Are
you looking for a brief affair? Singles cruises or all
inclusive resorts may be the answer. Want something a bit more
long term? Try meeting men through your religious
organizations or through friends.
At this point, when you find a man that fits well into your
life and meets your criteria don't play games. So many women
sabotage themselves by playing games with the men that they
like. A true seduction diva knows how to date a man in a way
that keeps the flirtation going and still lets him know that
she wants to be with him.
I am not telling you to throw yourself at your guy but playing
too hard to get can be equally damaging to a relationship. If
you like a man be affectionate, flirty, and honest. There can
be a fine line when you learn how to date a man. Men want some
encouragement but not a clingy woman. They also don't want one
who is so caught up in creating drama that she has no
attention left to notice all of his finer points or work on
building their relationship .
Use your body language to show him that you are interested.
Lean forward when he speaks and actually pay attention to what
he has to say. Touch his arm when making a point in the
conversation or when you agree with something he said. Keep
your body language open, friendly and relaxed.
Also don't try to be something that you are not. A lot of
women develop a "dating personality." The pretend to prefer
whatever the guy likes to "make him like" them. Well this type
of act never works:
1) It is tiring trying to keep up appearances.
2) He will find out at some point in the relationship.
3) You are wasting your time and his. Think about it. Instead
of being with a guy who truly values you as you are, you are
hanging around with a guy that you will be miserable with just
a few months or years down the road.
On the other side of that coin, don't try to change him. Each
man that you meet is absolutely perfect just as he is. He just
may not be perfect for you and it is a bit presumptuous to
think that he needs to be changed and that you are the woman
for the job.
Finding and learning how to date a man can be fun. Dating
single men can be really enjoyable. But if you are looking for
a long term relationship a little forethought is in order.
Don't ever date out of desperation or loneliness. Date with a
clear idea in your mind of who and what you want. From that
clear sided purpose, you will instinctively know where to
locate men with those qualities instead of hoping that you
will stumble upon one like in a Hollywood movie. Singles
cruises, online personals and joining a dating club may all
seem like good ideas but would the person that you want to be
with use these techniques to find the woman of his dreams? Why
not meet him, while he is doing something that he enjoys like
working out, attending a seminar or chatting in a book club?
He will be in a good mood to begin with and you will both feel
a bit more relaxed because dating isn't the single minded
purpose of these events.
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