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Does She Mean What She Says?
 Your woman just got home from shopping and is modelling her
new dress for you. She circles the room and looks at you
expectantly, waiting for your opinion. Naturally, you are
confused. Is she asking for your honest opinion or is she
fishing for a compliment?
Sometimes, determining what your woman is asking you can be a
challenge, especially in the early stages of a relationship.
This communication barrier is no one's fault. Rather, it can
be attributed to the fact that men and women speak very
different languages. While men are used to being more direct
with one another, women tend to be more subtle, often using
hints.
So don't be surprised when you and your woman have such
misunderstandings. There are some common phrases that women
use, try to understand them to bridge the gap between what she
says and what she means.
She says: "I'm not angry."
What she means: I'm angry.
If she's pursing her lips and not speaking to you, but claims
she's not angry, she's probably bluffing. She could simply be
bottling up her anger or she may think that her man should
just know why she's upset, without her having to tell him.
What you should do: Try to figure out why she's upset and talk
about it. The issue is not going to go away. In fact, if you
don't deal with it, she'll just have bottled-up anger towards
you and it'll come back to bite you later.
She says: "I think of you as a brother."
What she means: I'm not attracted to you.
It means she's letting you know that she's not into you, and
may be it's kinder than telling you the truth.
What you should do: In this case, just don't make a move on
her.
She says: "I like your friends, but..."
What she means: I don't like your friends.
She doesn't want to insult you or your friends, so she's not
telling you outright how much she dislikes them. She probably
thinks they're a bad company and wants you to hang out with
them less.
What you should do: If she has a valid reason to dislike them,
then you might take her concerns into consideration.
Otherwise, simply tell her that your friends are equally
important to you.
She says: "You don't communicate enough."
What she means: How do you feel about our relationship?
She wants to know what you feel where the relationship is
going, but doesn't want to come off as needy.
What you should do: Put her mind at ease and tell her what you
think about the relationship.
She says: "Why don't you try to kiss me like this?"
What she means: I don't like the way you do it.
She doesn't want to hurt your feelings. But this is not all
bad, she likes you enough to want to work at it and make it
better.
What you should do: Try it her way and see how it goes.
She says: "I really like that guy's hair."
What she means: I don't like yours.
She figures that it's a lot nicer to hint at this than to tell
you outright.
What you should do: Get a second opinion on your hair. She may
be right. But, if your second opinion tells you otherwise,
feel free to stick to your guns and your hairstyle. In that
case, just pretend that you didn't get her hint.
Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and he provides
dating tips for men to help them succeed with women. Read his
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